Today's blog was written by Dr. Barbara Kaminski, Ph.D, BCBA, who is the Clinical Director for Green Box ABA, PLLC
I was just standing in the surf, letting my feet get buried
deeper and deeper into the sand with each wave. He appeared seemingly out of
nowhere and was suddenly standing between me and the next wave. “Do you like
the beach?” was his first question. I paused. The manner of his approach and
the rhythm of his speech were definitely cues that this man was on the autism
spectrum. I responded with a statement and then a reciprocal question. He “sort
of” answered the question and then asked me another question. Peer response.
Peer response. He finished by extending two fists with “thumbs up.” I looked at
his extended fists, wondering what the response should be; what had been used
as the “social reinforcer.” I gave him a double fist-bump. He looked disappointed
and left his fists in place. Wiggled his thumbs. Ah, okay. Another “fist-bump”
but this time we touched thumbs. He happily ran off into the waves. I didn’t
actually take the time to count, but in retrospect, I think we had about a
10-exchange “conversation.”
Out of everyone on the beach, he chose to approach me. It
was a good choice and I am thankful. Given my profession, I had some idea of
how to respond to him in a meaningful way. On the whole, both the initiation
and the conversation had the formal appearance of being appropriate. But even
to me it felt unnatural and, well, kind of odd. And who knows how many other
people he had “initiated a conversation” with on the beach and how they responded.
I am sure some were polite and tried to have a conversation. I can imagine
others who were not so polite, if you get my drift.
I have no doubt that he has worked very hard on these social
skills. I have no idea whether he worked on them formally with an ABA provider.
At the very least, he probably had social skills goals on his IEP. But there
was definitely something missing. To me,
things just felt out of place. To someone without my experience, I am sure it would
have felt uncomfortable. As a professional who frequently works on helping kids
on the spectrum learn social skills, I felt convicted. Do we often stop short
of teaching truly functional, meaningful social skills?
It is daunting, to be fair. In our social interactions, we
make highly conditional discriminations, in a fluid, ongoing way. If we take
the time to “process” what to do next, our social interaction becomes stilted.
At the very least, our discriminations are on based on the conversational
partner (is this a friend, an acquaintance, a clerk at the store, a
supervisor/teacher, etc.) and the context/setting. There are scenarios where we
might have a successful initiation with an unfamiliar person at the beach. For
example, if I have a boogie board, I might talk to someone else with a boogie
board about the height of the waves. Or if I notice that someone has built a
super amazing sand castle, I might ask her a question about that (“That’s an
amazing sand castle. How long did it take you to build it?”). However, no
matter how much I want to know more about the sand castle, I may not initiate a
conversation with her if she gives cues that she needs to chase after a toddler
on the sand. I will admit that the sheer number and variety of contextual and
social stimuli that function as discriminative stimuli for emitting (or not
emitting) a social behavior can make this next level training seem nothing
short of impossible. But as behavior analysts, we have the training and the
skill to break it down into manageable, albeit complex, targets.
I would never suggest that we shouldn’t work on the basic
building blocks of the social skills repertoire – initiating conversations,
asking questions, etc. I spend a lot of time teaching the topography of the
behavior – “how” to initiate a conversation, for example. But personally, I
often don’t get as far as helping clients learn “when” to initiate a
conversation. Or how to end a conversation naturally. And if I really want my
clients to not just interact with others but to actually develop relationships,
then I need to help them work on those sorts of things too. Unless what I want
is a client who in the future has awkward conversations with random women on
the beach, that is.
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